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The Couple’s Quest: A therapist’s guide to couples communication

As a couple therapist, I have met hundreds of couples in search of fixing their relationship, rekindling their romance, trying to reconnect and heal their wounds. Time and time again, they present asking for communication tools, ways to argue better, or try to understand one another. As I sit with them in couple therapy, I ask myself is it really their communication they are trying to fix? Often what needs uncovering is the underlying emotional interaction between the two partners. Once uncovered, what becomes evident is the need to be loved, prioritized, understood and appreciated (to name a few). Each partner brings in their own emotional history and story into the relationship. Relationships can serve to heal some old wounds or at times resurface injuries. Once these underlying emotions can be named in therapy, the relationship struggles can begin their healing process. So, is poor communication at the core of the issues? It definitely plays a role. What couples need to do is spend time trying to connect regularly and not just in the thick of things. Date nights are a great way to set time aside just for the couple, remembering to have fun or add a little romance back into their lives. Checking in regularly, at the end of the

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